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27 Ways to Recognise Shame at Work

Shame at work happens when we compare ourselves to an undefined or unreachable standard.

Instead of helping us to strive and improve, when it becomes unhelpful, shame can make us feel a constant sense of failure to achieve those standards. It can make us over-react, over-compensate and be generally tough to be around at work!

The first step to overcoming it, is to learn to recognise it. Here’s 27 ways to do that!

Recognising Self-Doubt at Work

The Seven Self-Limits

In the professional world, we all have a set of mental Self-Limits that unconsciously restrict what we do and say. Their purpose is to keep us safe – to stop us from saying or doing risky, stupid, or embarrassing things. But they can also have a really strong tendency to hold us back from reaching our full potential, especially when it comes to achieving goals and building effective working relationships.

Self-Doubt

Self-Doubt is one of these limits, and learning to recognize it is crucial for success at work.

We must become more AWARE of its impact, how it feels, and the inner self-talk that accompanies self-doubt in professional situations.

Here’s what Self-Doubt looks like in the workplace:

Impact

  • Self-Doubt causes hesitation, avoidance, procrastination, and can lead to the failure to complete crucial tasks or projects.

Emotions

  • In the workplace, Self-Doubt feels like anxiety, insecurity, or uneasiness; it may manifest as a knot in our stomachs or a weight on our chests.

Self-Talk

  • If you’re experiencing self-doubt at work, you might think, “I can’t do that [task]” or “I won’t be able to [succeed in this role]”

Overcoming Self-Doubt at Work

There are four steps to overcoming each of the Seven Self-Limits. First, practice raising awareness of it, noticing when it occurs to stop it from being an unconscious event. Then, Analyze why it’s happening; Accept when it might be useful; and decide what Action to take to continue progressing.

Try it for Yourself

Next time you notice any of the Impacts, Emotions, or Self-Talk mentioned above in your working experience, make a note of it. Keep practicing awareness because recognising self-doubt is halfway to overcoming it.


Stay tuned for more articles about overcoming each of the seven self-limits, using the menu at the top of the page.

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