The single biggest predictor of people’s action and behaviour – what they will say and do – is their internal view of who they are
Think you’re a good leader? Then that will shape how you behave towards the people in your teams.
Feel like you’re organised and capable? Then that will influence how much work you take on and what you can cope with.
Do you regard yourself as someone who gets up early and pushes themselves? Then that’s way more likely to shape your motivation than ability, experience and resources.
And the converse is true as well:
- If you feel that you’re not good leader or that you’ve let people down in the past – and you don’t take steps to focus away from that belief – then your leadership will fall short in future;
- If you think you’re a disorganised, haphazard person – and you don’t acknowledge where your strengths really are – then your effectiveness at work will suffer;
- If you tell yourself you’re a lazy person who doesn’t try hard enough – and that’s all you do, without properly examining what you want to achieve and why – then it’ll be doubly-hard for you to create momentum.
Rigorously examine your beliefs about who you are.
What kind of person are you – really?
Strip out all of the negative judgements. Nobody is perfect. We all fall short of the highest standards in some areas, some of the time.
It’s so important to guard against self-beliefs that limit us. Be careful about who you think you are. For example:
“I am a failure …”
… is 100% NOT the same as: “I am someone who has tried and failed.”
Someone who has repeatedly tried and failed is a “Tryer”, not a “Failure”!
Whenever you can, sculpt your self-identity to be totally honest and true and all-inclusive. Not rose-tinted, but not judgemental either.
Above all, our beliefs about who we are should support our higher purpose.
What are you here to achieve?
Who will benefit from you being at your best?
What are your efforts in service of?
And in the context of those answers – who do you choose to be?
What do you notice about your own self-beliefs about the kind of person you are? And how do they influence what you say and do, day-to-day?
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