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Useful motivation or unhelpful bullshit – how do you know?
It was in my mind for no real reason as I woke today, feeling more than usually get-up-and-go-ish.
I often treat this kind of Improvise, Adapt, Overcome stuff with a bit of caution. In particular, how do you know when:
- It’s a genuine sense of resourcefulness, that you really mean it and are ready to deal with whatever life and works throws your way; or
- You’re just bullshitting yourself and don’t really feel ready to overcome anything – but desperately think you should be?
Some people would say that it’s an important distinction to make.
Because if you’re not feeling especially resourceful, but are unconsciously telling yourself that you should be able to deal with whatever comes your way, then you’re actually just setting yourself up to fail.
The more I do this coaching work, the less sure I am about the usefulness of this kind of distinction.
I’ve seen lots of people move mountains by telling themselves they should be able to Improvise, Adapt and Overcome, even when it really ups the stakes of failure for them. Equally, I’ve seen people frozen into inaction by trying to live up to some impossible standard.
Perhaps the following is the best way to test the usefulness of these kind of mottos and slogans. My definition of empowerment is this:Empowerment is the power to make decisions and take actions that affect our circumstances Click To Tweet
So does this kind of thing help you to make decisions and take actions that affect your circumstance?
If yes, go for it, maybe even get the tattoo!
If not, drop it, this one’s not for us; instead, work on what you want to have happen until you’re really clear about that.
As usual, please leave me a comment if they’re still open below, or tweet me @NickRobCoach.Tell me about your own favourite motto and whether or not this kind of thing helps you to be empowered? Click To Tweet